rewrote the script 7xs

"I married 7 times because there are many me."

- Ingrid Bergman 

on marriage

"A sibling relationship with occasional moments of incest."
- (a single) Bill Maher [born 1956]

Trauma Bonding

David Koresh, leader of the Branch Davidians © Sipa Press/Rex/Shutterstock

1. "Trauma Bonding" can be used in the context of grad school where you become friends with others of the shared hard experience.
2. The other more traditional interpersonal context develops out of a repeated cycle of abuse, devaluation, and positive reinforcement. It creates powerful feelings one struggles to make sense of, especially when abuse alternates with kindness and intimacy. Many abusive relationships begin with a shower of affection and assurances of love. When the abuse begins, it may take one by surprise. Afterward, the abuser might apologize, swear to change, or insist “I was just upset.” These attempts to manipulate often succeed, since one remembers the early days of the relationship and believe they can be that person again.

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wedding band significance

"Love without end."

on the virtues of the long game

"Sure metaphorically you got mobile faster. Didn't have to take the bus. I took public transportation longer, but as you were building quickly your Pinto, I was laboriously, methodically building a Rolls Royce."
- Deferred character formation gratification

matrimony

"Anyone who's not married by the age of 27 is a menace to society."
- Brigham Young

love is not a factor

divorce

"At my age the adage is that 'all the good ones are taken.' They'll be back."
- Jon Fisch

Albert Einstein had a marriage contract drawn up with his first wife Mileva Maric. Among the stipulations was that she was to stop talking whenever he requested.

"I will never be caught marrying someone who's old enough to be my wife."
- Tony Curtis

on gay marriage

"It made me nervous, until I was told it's not mandatory."
- Jon Stewart