narcissism

sewing seeds of doubt

 

eradicate the abused

 

medical gaslighting

not a compliment

why some hate you

 

why you're hated

 Because they feel inferior to you:

know your narcissist

 

Courtesy Rebecca Zung

no!

Because they see you as an object to help them, not you as a person however flawed:

Narcissistic Gaslighting

"People out there think you're an idiot."

self-indulgent

Emily Yoffe examines Narcissistic Personality Disorder here.

"They have a primitive, undeveloped sense of self." To compensate, they create a grandiose image to distract from an inner state that Payson says is one of "almost malignant anxiety and emptiness."

As well,

Psychologist Allan N. Schore, an associate clinical professor at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA says NPD can be summed up as, "Contempt of other people and their emotions." People with NPD are convinced there is nothing wrong with them; it's everyone around them who is impossible or crazy.

Earlier references to narcissism here and here.

office narcissism

Caravaggio's Narcissus, ca. 1598

Psychologists Dr. Jennifer Newman and Dr. Darryl Grigg look at narcissism in the office:

"Narcissists have difficulty empathizing with others. Walking in another's shoes is a challenge. They have a strong sense of entitlement (they believe they deserve deferential or special treatment) ..."

"Narcissists experience a great deal of shame but hide it. It comes out in belittling or humiliating behaviour towards others. It can be shown in cutting putdowns disguised as jokes, nasty looks or dismissive comments if you've made a mistake that might make the narcissist look bad or subtle deflation of your confidence by insinuating that you need the narcissist's help to achieve your goals. Remaining one-up is key to the narcissist's mindset."

"Those with narcissistic tendencies experience a sense of entitlement: they believe they deserve recognition, special treatment, benefits, appreciation or attention."

"Narcissists experience a great deal of envy and although much of it is buried, they privately or subconsciously wish to undermine, spoil, destroy or reduce anything that evokes feelings of inferiority. They have difficulty sharing the limelight, appreciating colleagues' talents or honouring others' achievements, especially if they cannot share in the triumph or benefit from the reflective glow."

"They experience a reduction in confidence, feel inferior and strive to restore the perceived imbalance by devaluing the talented co-worker (making them feel bad for exercising their unique skill), competing for attention, putting the envied individual down or insinuating themselves into the unlucky colleague's achievement."

"Narcissists may engage in ostentatious behaviour such as shows of wealth ..."

The entire Ottawa Citizen article here.

An earlier reference to narcissism on this blog here.

Denial is not just a river in Egypt

Denial is a defense mechanism postulated by Sigmund Freud [1856-1939] in which a person is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence.

Certain personality disorders tend to be characterized by denial more than others. For example, those with narcissistic personality disorder deny information that suggests they are not perfect.

Harvard Psychology Professor Steven Pinker [born 1954] does not consider himself a radical thinker; watch the video of his discussion about his book The Blank Slate: A Modern Denial of Human Nature and judge for yourself.